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Is your toddler ready to take turns and share?

Taking turns

Teaching our children to share is often an early goal for us parents, but adults often ask children to share long before they are ready. For children, the whole idea of sharing feels arbitrary: what are the rules? Why do we take turns with certain objects and not others? Why do we have to do this at all? It’s not hard to see why sharing is a hard sell with small children 🙃

When we talk about sharing with two-year-olds, what we’re really talking about is turn-taking. Knowing the difference between the two—and having a sense of when children are ready for each—can help determine what kind of support they need along the way. 

What’s the difference between taking turns and sharing?

Sharing and turn-taking sound like the same thing, but children have to practice turn-taking—with adult help—for a long time before they’re ready to share. 

Taking turns involves waiting while someone else uses the exact object you want to use, and it’s hard for anyone, really. Children may be cognitively and developmentally ready to start taking turns at around age two. Even then, they will almost always need to be supported and guided by an adult. 

Sharing, on the other hand, is a complex collaborative process involving a common goal, and comes later, beginning around age four. 

How to teach toddlers to share and take turns

Put away a small number of special “non-negotiables” 

If you are expecting company, have your child select a few beloved toys and make them off-limits (tip: determine the number of items before you start). This respects the connection your child has with these items and lets them be in control. 

Preview what’s going to happen 

Previewing what will soon be happening removes the element of surprise: “you’re playing with the truck now, and in three minutes it’s going to be Maria’s turn, and she will get to play with it for awhile.” 

Use a visual timer 

Using a visual timer helps your child know when their turn is up. 

Practice turn-taking in everyday life

Family at their kitchen counter making a green smoothie.

Think about introducing the concept of turn taking as you go about your day – make a smoothie together and take turns dropping ingredients like banana slices in one by one. 

Take a breather

If turn-taking starts feeling too hard, consider an activity that provides more opportunity for harmony. Sensory play, art activities, puzzles, or even a common task like spreading nut butter on crackers are all easy ways to let everyone have a turn at the same time. 

Practice together

Here are some fun toys that promote turn taking. You can also put a puzzle together with your child, taking turns by adding pieces one at a time.


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